Why Life Coaching?
We are living in troubled times.
Statistically, we are all thriving. And yet, people are troubled. They are pessimistic about the future. They no longer believe that they have control over their lives. They do not understand what happened. They do not know where they belong or whether they belong anywhere.
Relationships are more difficult and more tenuous. Job offers and marriages scatter people to the corners of the earth. We all interact with people from different cultures on a daily basis. We have a right to feel confused and disoriented. Some of us feel we are in a modern Hell.
Put it all together and you are not going to feel very good. So, you will turn to a psycho-professional for help. The culture tells you to do it. Who are you to contradict the culture?
Your psycho-professional might very well give you a prescription. Today’s pills are far better than yesterday’s. But, pills can do no more than to dull the pain. They will not show you how to deal with moral dilemmas or with social conflicts.
Pills will not tell you how to negotiate a difficult situation or with difficult people. They will not tell you how to choose a career path or a mate. They will not tell you how to plan your life.
The old therapies are not much help either. By now, the bloom is off the rose of psychoanalysis. People have finally gotten beyond psychobabble and pseudo-theoretical gibberish. They seek out more practical, solution focused treatments. The prefer guidance and counsel.
At times, they can find it in cognitive and behavioral treatments, but more often they are turning to coaches. CBT, as it is called, serves a useful purpose. But, on most occasions, it cares mostly about re-configuring your mind. Too often it feels like rearranging the deck chairs, etc. It does not look into a real situation or examine ways you might employ to turn it to your advantage. It rarely gets into the business of solving problems.
For that people have increasingly turned to coaches. Most people know better than to try to go it alone.
Life coaching is a relatively new field. Athletes have always had coaches to help them to play at their best. The same applies to acting coaches, singing coaches, and business coaches.
A life coach will help you to manage your dating life, your relationships, your marriage, and/or your career. He or she will show you how to be your best, to do your best, and to seek out the best in others. You will learn how to negotiate disputes, how to solve problems, how to forge alliances, and how to act ethically.
A life coach can wear many hats. He can be a business coach, an executive coach, a relationship coach, a marriage coach. His focus will always be on the human interactions that constitute your social world.
Coaches help you deal with people‚ in business, in college, in relationships, in marriages.
Coaches often come from different backgrounds. Some have a background in business; some have been consultants; some have practiced a profession, like psychotherapy.
Stuart writes about current cultural and social issues on his blog: Had Enough Therapy?
Stuart Schneiderman is available for corporate and educational seminars and lectures on a variety of topics ranging from Negotiation & Conflict Resolution to issues of Shame or Guilt. To learn more go to Lectures & Seminars.